It’s really April 3rd. There was a lot going on yesterday, I knew on the 1st that I should;ve batched this content but here we are.
Day 2:
I had this in my notes from 1/28/2018 – I was 24.
I was going to do a blog called The20Matters OR something along those lines – never materialized but I did do the research and gather some advice for 20 somethings and at 31 imma just give my perspective on the advice.
The original advice is from a 63rd year old (and my takes are in bold in parentheses)
- Never be afraid to start, but you must start today, now! (This is big facts, look at me doing something I started at 24, 7 years later lol. Start today and stay consistent with it)
- Most things in life are a matter of perspective. The moment you change your perspective, you become a different person. (Agreed. Was it a bad day or a bad moment within your day? Everything is gonna be okay.)
- Do something you love and are passionate about. Most (but not all of us) don’t, which is why we hate Mondays, long for Fridays and, as the years go by, slowly commute our way to retirement or death whichever comes first. (Agreed if you’re lucky enough to find something you love and are passionate about, go into it full throttle. You can never fail putting your whole heart into your passions -Life has taught me that the vulnerable are always rewarded.)
- Always jump in at the deep end. (Yup, for a bunch of reasons and frankly it’s more fun. Live every moment to the fullest, enjoy every present opportunity. Unless your gut & intuition are telling you otherwise, say yes as much as you can.)
- Don’t make someone a priority, when you are just an option to them (100. If they could, they would… if they wanted to, they would. Things like this are usually pretty clear so don’t ignore the red flags. & if you’re in a position of confusion then you’re probably not a priority…)
- Read. Then read more and more and more… (I take this as a just always be learning and remain open to gaining knowledge so yes – however you learn. You may be a visual learner and a book won’t do it for you, just stay open to learning new things or more about things you already thought you knew. The world and the people in your world are ever changing – just like you are.)
- Stop watching the TV. Apparently the average person watches 9.1 years of TV and you can bet most of it will be repeats! (It’s all about balance my friend, watch TV but touch grass as well. Move your body as well. This side of 30 is only a mirror and you want to be happy about what’s staring back at you.)
- Don’t take that 9 to 5 job unless it is a stepping stone to starting your own business. After all who wants to have to ask their boss if they can go to the toilet! “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” (Nah I don’t agree here lol. Not everyone is built to start their own business, but if you have the stamina – go for it. There are 9 to 5’s out there that can lead you on the path of financial freedom and to what you want.)
- Trust people until they give you a reason not to. (Agreed. Everyone deserves their own trust meter from you. Try your best not to make person B “pay” for person A’s mistakes. & the only real apology when/if trust is broken is changed behavior. Take a “sorry” with a grain of salt.)
- Say no. “Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough”. (Agreed and I know, I just told you to say yes more, but that’s to things that will make your day or make your life better. That’s saying yes to things that will live in your memory bank forever. If you truly do NOT want to do something, then say no. & remember that NO is a full sentence.)
- Ask more questions (Yes. Ask until you understand.)
- Don’t chase the carrots. (Have a vision and execute towards it. When you don’t know where you’re going, distractions look like opportunities)
- Visit Mum and Dad more often (Visit all of your older family members that bring you peace and joy as often as possible)
- Be patient. There’s no advantage to rushing through life “All great achievements require time” – Maya Angelou (Patience is a virtue. Stay persistent, it’ll come)
- People will try to discourage you. Don’t let them. Believe in yourself and don’t worry about what other people think. (Agreed. Careful who you tell your plans to and if they aren’t supportive, it’s okay – do it anyway. Why? Because most people can only judge something based off their own lens – they were not given your vision and that was for a reason. So no support? Do it anyway. Scared? Do it anyway. Discouraged? Do it anyway. Don’t end up like me with all these unfinished projects that you come back to years later because it haunts you. At least give it a try.)
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Focus on your own game. (Big facts. Comparison is the thief of joy. your story is not like anyone else’s. This reminds me of that picture on Micheal Phelps in the pool swimming and he’s head down focused on his lane and one of the guys competing against him is swimming as well but the photographer caught the phot at just the right moment where his head is up and angled like he is looking at Phelps. & Phelps won the gold. So remember this: “winners focus on winning, losers focus on their opponents.”)
- Everything is figureoutable (if that’s even a word) – (True & the answer may come to you at the most random moment)
Finally if your reading this and your much further down the road of life than you would like to be remember this wonderful quote:
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” George Eliot – AGREED, “breath in your body means options.” – Imani Cohen.
Go for it, whatever it is.